Forming connections online has become a norm. But with this new social landscape comes the risk of ‘catfishing‘ – a deceptive practice where someone creates a fake online persona to lure others into a relationship.  

Learning how to recognise the signs of catfishing can protect both your heart and personal information. Read on for 7 red flags that could mean you’re dealing with a catfish. 

  1.  They avoid video calls 

One of the most telltale signs you’re being catfished is if the person you’ve met online consistently avoids video calls. They might claim their camera is broken, they have poor internet connection or offer other excuses.  

While there could be legitimate reasons for this, frequent avoidance should raise suspicion. Real individuals interested in genuine relationships will want to see you face-to-face, even if it’s through a screen.  

If someone persistently dodges video interactions, it might be because they cannot physically match the identity they’ve presented online. 

  1. Their profile seems too good to be true 

When encountering an online profile, be wary if it appears unnaturally perfect. Catfish often create their profiles to resemble an ideal, using professional or highly edited images – so the photos look like model shoots.  

Also, their life stories might seem implausible, sounding a bit too dramatic or idyllic rather than an actual genuine experience. True profiles typically showcase a range of photos, including casual snapshots and are likely to share realistic personal anecdotes. If someone’s online presence feels too put-together, it could be a deliberate attempt to deceive you. 

  1.  They ask for money 

A significant warning sign is when an online acquaintance requests money, particularly if you’ve never met. This request often comes under the guise of an urgent scenario, like a medical emergency or a financial crisis.  

And more often than not, is accompanied by emotional stories designed so you’ll feel sorry for them and make you ignore all rational judgment. Be cautious and remind yourself that real connections typically do not start with financial appeals. This tactic is a common strategy used by catfish to exploit trust and get your money. 

  1.  Their stories don’t add up 

Be on the look-out for inconsistencies in an online acquaintance’s life stories. If they frequently change facts about their past, work or daily activities, it could mean they are lying.  

Real people have life stories that are coherent and consistent over time. If you spot inconsistencies, especially if they’re significant or about fundamental aspects of their identity, this could suggest they might be making most of it up.  

Always listen carefully and note any discrepancies – they could reveal that the person is not who they claim to be. 

  1. They have very few friends or followers 

A social media profile with very few friends or followers, particularly if it has been active for some time, can be a sign of a fake account.  

Often, catfish create new profiles to carry out their deception and may not have a large network of interactions. A genuine account typically has connections and a history of interactions that reflect real-life relationships and activities.  

Lack of these could mean their profile has been created to make sure you are misled.   

  1. They are too forward or flirty 

When someone is excessively flirty or moves the relationship along too quickly, it could be a strategy used by catfish. They often use intense flattery and create a false sense of intimacy to manipulate your emotions.  

This rapid pace can distract their victim from noticing inconsistencies in their story or other warning signs. So, be cautious if someone seems to be rushing emotional depth without a real-life meeting or a genuine friendship. 

  1. They avoid personal questions 

If someone consistently avoids answering personal questions or changing the subject when you ask about their life, this could be a warning sign.  

Catfish might be vague about their background, occupation or living situation to avoid slipping up and revealing inconsistencies. Genuine individuals are usually more open and willing to share details about themselves. 

Secure your online relationships with M19 Solutions 

Ensure your online safety by being observant and following your gut feelings to steer clear of catfishing. When interactions seem dubious, err on the side of caution. If something feels off, it probably is. 

For support in validating your online relationships, our team of private investigators in Manchester can help with professional catfish investigations. We offer specialised assistance to help you uncover and understand the reality behind your online connections.